The 4 Patterns

Discover what your nervous system keeps reaching for when life feels too much

Your nervous system isn't broken.

It's just using strategies that worked once and don't anymore.

You've been told your stress response falls into one of four categories: fight, flight, freeze, fawn. Like your nervous system only speaks four words.

But neuroscience doesn't support that. Your body doesn't lock you into a single response. It reaches for a range of strategies depending on what feels threatening in that moment.

The 4 Patterns handout shows you what your nervous system keeps reaching for when life feels too much:

The Striving Strategy

"I'll outperform the threat."

The Withdrawal Strategy
"I'll disappear until it's safe."

The Relational Strategy
"I'll manage everyone else's feelings first."

The Control Strategy
"I'll eliminate the variables."

You don’t need to shut everything down to feel more steady.
You just need a way in that matches how your system actually works.

Most women recognise themselves in two or three patterns.

This isn't about diagnosing what's wrong with you.

It's about recognising what your nervous system keeps reaching for, so you can start working with it instead of against it.
One that works with your system, not against it. A practice that brings you back to you.

Download the free 4 Patterns Handout.

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    Author & Somatic Movement Educator.

    I'm Nahid

    For more than 20 years I’ve worked with capable people whose nervous systems have adapted to lives of responsibility, pressure and constant anticipation.

    My work focuses on helping people recognise the patterns their bodies have learned — and how those patterns can begin to change through awareness, rhythm and experience.

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